“My Truths Part I & II”
While minding my own bizzness...
Ms. Owl aka Tamekia Hayes Singleton shared a chronicle she wrote with the Sisterhood of Women. Called:
Tamekia Hayes Singleton - “Restoring Womanhood”
It is a very good read! I refer to Tamekia now as my wise owl aka Ms. Owl, because she shares her life force and helps keep me centered. It is truly an honor to be a part of her Cypher of Sisterhood.
She shared her truths along with real ideas to help women come together. She also gave the questions she was asked by the hostess at a event. I named this event “From Womanhood to Sisterhood.” If you click the above link you will understand why. The topics centered on how women feel about themselves and how women relate to each other.
This in turn, moved me and my heart, so I shared my own thoughts on the subject and the questions that had been given to the woman that went to the event.
Tamekia Quote:
The Hostess of the event invited several women over to have an open discussion about our personal experience with womanhood. She wanted to know two things:
The questions were;
(1) Why women relate differently to men than each other. More importantly, the issue women have with each other. She pointed out how men can do us so wrong and we will go through leaps and bounds to stay connected to a man and try to understand him (or get him to understand us), but quickly turn our backs on each other without giving each other a chance (or second chance).
(2) She asked at what point, if at any point did you feel like a whole woman and if you're not there, what more do you think you need? Whole woman meaning at what point did you feel completely good about the woman you are today, not necessarily meaning there was no more to learn in life.
As I answered each question; I shared my life with each answer. and what you are about to read is my response in love to the sisters and to Ms. Safia who responded to what I wrote...
Safia wrote love and respect back to me:
"Thank you for sharing Sammi! Although I am an atheist, I can appreciate the journey and transformation you have made. I too am on a journey towards transformation and have had to deal with some of those same issues from childhood. It's hard work but I am determined to break the cycle. Many women are suffering and this opening sharing and real talk is very much needed today."
I love that she took the time to show love and even feel my pain because she had lived parts of my life and was determined to break the cycle of abuse, like myself. I often say. “The cycle of abuse began with me; but it ends with me; not one more child or person will suffer the way I did throughout my childhood into my early adult life.” It is a promise I make daily to myself and I now make to every reader of my words. This hideous thing must come to end and we as ladies have the power to see it come true.
So this is my very humble response to Tamekia, Safia, and the Sisterhood of Women and the readers of my heart.
This is my truth and how I see things. Perhaps who ever reads these words, it will be inspired to to share their essences here with us or take it to other ladies to consider. In life you never know what will move or touch another person’s soul...
I am grateful to be a part of the Sisterhood of Women who aspiration to help other women heal so we can heal the world. And take our children; men; and life back.
Here We Go:
I love you all in the way, I wish to be loved and respected... Over the past years since 1998, I have blessed to meet some incredible women and men. They have touched my life in ways that I know for a fact I shall not and can't be who I once was... And all I can say is thank you for my education into what real love is.
"Tree of life"
We are the leaves the trunk and roots.
No matter your job or station in the tree of life we touch and matter....
for we keep the tree alive...
Part I - My Truth:
My goal is simply to share what is true for me. And if it offends you; I am okay with it... if you are not then why not? Or better yet why would my journey or truth bother you? And now that you are bothered or you can feel what I have said; what are you now going to do about it?
Safia… On my journey and path; I learned to respect All paths to God or a higher power or lack thereof. It is not now or ever my place or anyone else’s place to push or browbeat someone into confessing what is not true for them. My job is to touch life and learn. You are my gift and miracle or simply put; you would not be on my path, or eye on yours. So eye greet you in love and respect and I wish you peace always.
I was also taught no one can teach you anything that you do not already know in your own being; a.k.a housing unit of thought, brain, mind, spirit and overstanding. From all the stuff I read; I have learned the fight between these faiths, groups, and affiliations based on religion and spirituality is dumb as hell. I learned they are the same people. The info is there if people choose to learn and not live their life off what others say you must do. I double dog dare you to learn for yourselves and better yet live life with vigor and overstanding.
So if they are the same, why do Jews, Christians and Muslims fight, if it is the same God? For real what purpose does it serve to fight and kill over GOD? That was just a couple of my billion questions, so I read their sacred texted and learned! Ut Oh… (Giggles because learning for yourself is Allowed) I learned wow they really are the same people. Then I explored the other groups and cultures about faith and spirituality and said Ut Oh! Yet again… they too are the same people. Very Interesting so I went into think and question mode.
I needed some answers. I came up with very straightforward things to consider and ponder; when you sit down and remove the history of stories of each group of people that claim GOD, even the stolen stories that Jews and Christians and Muslims took from other cultures and civilizations before this one. I found they all took stories; histories; myths; and legends; And used them as their own. So either history or life is truly repeating it’s self. Or these people who fight now over GOD are relatives that put a spin on the way they choose to worship or they all out and out lied. Because how can you have the same stories as the ancestors that lived 10,000 years before you? But yet everyone claim they are the only way to GOD! (Poppycock)
The more I sought after the truth, the more I realized that Ut Oh… Either God is not real or man is in error and flawed… [Again only you can determine what is true for you. Do not take my word for it gain the experience life for yourself.] There is no cheating and peeking on my paper this is not a test, so for real there is no wrong answer. When it comes down to what is best for “Safia” or “Me Sammi”
For each thing I learned I had either more questions or simply beautiful answers that lead to more questions… Oh schitt! I am learning, this is now my science, simple things, like was there only one immaculate conception in history of mankind. Nope there were several…
I often heard in my head this line “You Must Learn” the song by KRS-1 each time I learned a fact or a piece of history. What! And Oh Really! Let me dig some more.
And most religions have similar stories to each other and rules that are considered universal law across the board for every human being…. Hmmm! So much so it lead me to the conclusion mankind is full of schitt when it comes down to spirituality. and there will never be one path to God or for life; or what people choose to believe or not to believe…
I would rather them know, but believing is a start. I guess, but what do you know, or have you learned so much that you learned “you know nothing at All!” And you now smile every time you say it… if you are there Safia then you know why it makes me smile, if you are not there yet; you will learn it and smile when you too find yourself saying “you to know nothing at All”
Life to me is not about judgments; even some of the deepest minds I have come across cannot dispute that nothing is more important than life and maintaining the life cycle that also includes death or when we are in rest mode. I call death a time to shut down and reflect and take in All you have learned in the lifetime while on earth; before the return to consciousness…
So God for me is All of us. Living; being; and doing; past; present; and future! We are All a part of the circle of life and each of us has a role in life. For me there is no such thing as time in the since the past; present; and future happens at different times; for me they happen at the same time. I have some wild ideas about it.
For me I learned my life must touch another life, I must study, learn, ponder, share, apply, teach, guide, be taught, and gain knowledge as well as overstanding. So I can have wisdom in what it is that I have learned while looking for balance. Then repeat the process over while maintaining. I also must learn to hush, be still. I will and have learned to break bread with the wisest minds to foolish minds; or what I thought was foolish to me at first glance. But when I have my alone time and I ponder what is said by the foolish person I am forced to reconsider their wisdom. Why do I even think they are foolish? Who am eye to judge their life? In the end even foolish people teaches me about real life lessons… Once more only eye can determine what sits well with me. I was taught a fool can teach you something if you let go of your own mindset and are willing to sit in another person heart for a moment and see their life.
Real life lessons = learning = leads me to life = experience. God for me is not what mainstream faiths believe. I do not even care, it matters not what they think is true, because I take the time to know for me what is right and true only for Samantha. For me we are All a part of the same mind, although we journey and each takes different paths to get to where we are going to or from.
Some paths seem the same but rarely are they identical, because we really are different from one another. If you stop and “break bread” with someone on your path; you will gain so much more and learn a real life lessons. That maybe not that day, but later on the information that is obtained will/might shape you into a better being. And the knowledge shared might save your life or be very helpful to your growth. Each individual can determine what is right for them. That is why I said No one can teach you something that you do not already know” it is your job to know yourself and remember who you are and were…
Breaking Bread is a term I use = have a conversion or conversation about things you have learned and ponder; and share with another person. Notice I say know and not believe. To know for your self is far better than to be-a-lie-to live… the only way to know is to live it and learn. I say conversion because once someone has touch or spoke to you; in a place of love or respect there is no way you leave each other the same. It is what it is. Again this is my truth, you must find your own, hopefully you can relate and if not now perhaps later… I am only the messenger or scribe. Everything is up to you.
So I call the All = God, Consciousness, The Collective, Most High Place of Existence, Transformation Central, Life, US; You And ME! To me we All are mind; body; and soul…. And all these need to be fed daily.
Some people only focus on the spiritual side of life and dismiss All other sides to life. But if your body and mind are not healthy, how long will you be able to live as a spirit while on your path on earth or this realm or dimension.
The trinity for me is Mind; Body and Soul… And my goal is to find the balance of the three. I realize what I think, will piss people off and makes them want to debate me and all kinds of good/bad stuff. But God or the lack of God does not need Sammi to fight for him/her. I do not care about people with the attitudes like this “My God will kick your God’s ass…” lmao! Or when people meet and find out that one of them is not a believer (they are not of the same mindset) and they want to shadow box and debate. And my question is why… The All is The All and it includes Us All! if we are willing and able to learn from life and each other… All is well what harm can that cause to another person…???
We all will transform in ways I never dreamed or thought possible. Once we start living and thinking outside the box, by having a willingness to step closer to your true self and seeing and learning for ourselves, without all the hype and others people extra baggage on our collective and individual journeys on how things really are.
Today I have learned Eye Am who Eye Am. And that Eye Am the Eye Am … What it means for me matters not; what life means to you matters and if you are not living the life you wish; create it…. And if the goal is to touch people and help people heal; do it…
As for the people that hurt us growing up Ms. Safia; they were what we asked for when chilling’ in consciousness we came to gain experience although we choose a painful start;
Look at who you are right now. Not the lady you wish to be in the future; but look at you right now. I know I do not know you personally, only my spirit does. Are you bitter? Are you defeated? I do not think so (if you are what will Safia do about it, because only you have the power to heal it!) This was a hard lesson for me to learn. And if you have not learned it I will guide and help anyway I can; so you can get to the place of self-love and overstanding. I see you as a Sister who is growing and you are healing all the broken parts, pains, and scars…. You will go on to transformations; what hurt so bad once, will never hurt the same again. It is your drive now and determinations. That lessons learned from the pass will move through you. And you have been renewed. People tried to destroy us because our message for love is great. Is how I look at it today… perhaps this is a Band-Aid or just a metaphor….again only you can decide what is real and true for you.
Yet we are still standing. I dare you to find out why; I dare you to ask the ancestors why, I dare you to ask the universe why. The answer will blow you out the water, you will be shocked and you will carry on with your journey and your path…
How you got here matters not ... Now that you are safe and no one hurt’s you. What do you do with your life? Who will you touch? How will your truth help others to heal?
If you have not taken back your life; stand up my sister because no one can keep you down; we do not live with a spirit of fear; that is a shadow from the past. And you will go on to teach women how to heal… I can tell you more but was not asked. But everything you seek has always been within you; it is now our time. I am speaking for me as well as you… it is our time get up and seat ourselves upon the throne and be. You are my key and I am yours… that is sisterhood and what kindred spirits do for each other… I can’t explain why I am lead to people and I no longer really care. I know I must share so I do and wait to see the gift transform me and them…
Remember this if you remember nothing else about anything I have every written… “The only one standing in the way of your dreams and goals Is You! No devil; No evil; No person or event positive or negative can stop YOU from the life you wish to live” You have the ability to conqueror your fear by facing it. You will learn what I did. Take a deep breath and step out into life and so many women way before me believe in you. And fought and died so, we as ladies would have the right to learn; read; and be and do. This is my truth; you again have to decide for yourself what is true for you.
I tell people I am just a thought away, because I was told I show up right when the person needs me. I think that is an awesome gift, to be a present for someone else, especially if I do not know them. I believe in six degrees of separations. Because I seen it at work. So what I do and think has an effect on someone else’s life. I am my brother and sisters keeper. See because once upon a time we had no choice but today we do…. How will you walk your path…?
This is why I must heal me, so others can heal through what I have lived and they see it is possible to change and become whole and complete. I am not special; but I have notice that is what a lot of us do for each other without even realizing we do it. I just gotten to a place in life I am aware how and why we are gifts; keys; and miracles for each other. For me that is how I know there is The ALL; The God or The collective. Perhaps I am too simple in my thoughts and views, either way I accept it and my responsibility to myself and others…
Once we take on the elitist attitude in any shape form or fashion with life. We lose the point to life and meeting people of different walks of life, faith, no faith, path, road and journey. We lose sight of the puzzle that is left for us to ponder and solve together. I much rather share my essences, then to kill any part of the tree of life; because I was too big and stubborn to find out more than what is in my pond or circle.
Race = foot race, car race, Human race. wait the human race = people = life = All life must be maintained = we are the same people = brothers; sisters, mother, fathers, aunts, uncles, cousins, Grandparents and elders and ancestors = I am no better or greater or better than the next person = how do I class myself as better than. When I am also human and flawed, and learning; pondering; eating; drinking; living and dying and starting the path over as many times as necessary for me to get it right = I am here to learn and experience life = who am I to say what is best for someone else = if I let go of everything that I was taught; that harms the maintaining of life = respect for All things.. So I took off my title of faith based life from an affiliation or organization and groups. I am not down with any of that, if it makes me less than so be it…
But the freedom and peace I have today I would not trade it for all the things I might need in my life right now… Because by letting go and giving up the things that were toxic to my growth… helps another heal daily along with myself…
Again perhaps my views are too simple to get, or accept. But that is okay
Thank you for reading and sharing who you all are with me…
~Floetic Xpressionz~
Part II My Truth:
(This is kind of raw you might not wish to read) I make no excuse for women or men… I say we can and must do better… Expose the truth and heal it! No more dayum secrets…
Everything I written is for the healing of us as a people and I am hard on us, because for real I do not know how to say it in a nice way; what needs to be heard. I promise I am not passing judgment on your life. If you find yourself relating to all that is said it is not a personal attack. I wrote from my life perspective and what I had to endure. So if any or all of you have lived some part of my life; or this has happen to someone you know; or it is going on now in your life; I promise there is help and you are not alone and you will never be alone to heal again… Reach out!
The healing process is a hard one, but you can do it. Please receive my gift of words in the intent in which they are meant. Also excuse typos… I looking for a real proof reader…
Here We Go:
Ladies a little know fact;
Sexual Abuse Statistics
- One in three girls and one in five boys will be sexually assaulted by the age of 16.
- 1 out of every 3 American women will be sexually assaulted in her lifetime.
- 1 in 7 women will be raped by her husband.
- 6 out of 10 rape/sexual assaults occurred in the homes of the victim, family members or friends.
- 1,871 rapes occur per day.
- 1.3 women are raped per minute.
- Three out of five rapes happen before age 18.
- Three out of ten rapes happen before age 11.
- Between 80 - 90% of sexual assault victims knew their attacker.
Child Abuse Statistics
- Child abuse is reported every 10 seconds.
- 5 to 6 children die each day as a result of child abuse or neglect.
- 1 in every 4 children in the United States
- (28 million) are living in a household with an alcoholic adult
Other Abuse Statistics
- Every 9 seconds a woman is beaten in the United States.
- Every Day 4 Women in the U.S. Die from Domestic Violence
- Over 1,750,000 workdays are lost each year due to domestic violence.
- 1 in 5 female high school students reports being physically or sexually abused by a dating partner.
This is why I write and share my life force, this is why I want us to fight for each other and learn a new way to help each other without the judgments cattiness and ruthless behavior women do to each other.
The statics you just read; once upon a time was my life as a child and in my early adult life. it was all I knew and can you even imagine thinking this was a normal life for little girls and women. But I use to think it was. Because it was the only life I knew…
I even thought it was horrible to be a girl because all girls go through this. I grew up thinking I was ugly, because if I looked like the pretty kids no one would hurt me. I did not learn until 1993 that I was wrong. And it took me until 1995 to fight for my life. And even then I was in danger.
There were times I did not know if me and my little brother would make it through the night; I learned to be submissive and stay in my place. As my brother grew older I would protect him by taking his beatings. When he was first born I could hide him. No Child should have to live like that and No Woman should ever think this is okay or normal or her fault.
So as an adult I had to run away from home and ran clear away from one coast to another. At a later date I will share my entire story, but right now this is about Sisters getting them self together. So we can stop the hurt and bridge the gap to self-love and respect for ourselves first and then others.
Please read this as if today is the day you needed to come along so you could heal. Ladies we have a lot of work to do. first with us, then our kids and then the world. We must find a way to heal ourselves so we can heal others that suffered some part of the statics you just read or any part of my life once upon a time.
Perfect strangers helped me to become the woman you see before you today. They had no reason what so ever to love me but they did. They taught me I was worth loving and worth healing. And I had the ability in me to grow into a complete person. It was and has been an incredible journey for me into the realm of transformations. It did not cost anything out my pocket. I did not have to beg or plead I just had to be willing to be better than I was the day before…
Some of the people were atheist and some were from ever faith base you can name. some of my healing came from books and even movies; music and writing. I cannot attribute my growth to any one thing; accept learning my value and worth. and the knowing I could be better than I was the day before. Crazy right; but that is how it happen for me. So today this is why I give back and one of the main reasons why I know “the All” is real…. As you already read the All I speak of is Us & GOD. I hope you can view my writing and life and teaching as a new way to look at your life. Or at least you will have a better understand of why I am the way I am. If you bother to look at what is being said without preconceived thoughts or beliefs that your way to live is the only way to live. If you are suffering and have suffered in life maybe a new prospective will help set you free. Freedom and healing is possible…
If you cannot do that! Stop reading and do not go any further. in order for us all to heal, we have to get past what we think, for real all that matters is healing so we may maintaining life and the unity of life. Notice I said to maintain life not your whack ass belief systems that do more harm than good. Have you ever asked yourself, what the killing and wars are really about? If you do then you will understand the above statement and my note to the whole world or anyone that can read.
Is it faith that is wrong or the way humans use faith against life and each other??? If anything you believe tells you that someone is a dog or an infidel or gives you a sense you are better than anyone, because of your faith; color; culture; monetary status in life. Then your belief system is whack as hell and you need to come back and join the rest of us who wish to maintain life and the unity of life. And not a bunch of lies to make someone feel less than. So you can feel superior. Have you ever notice we act like racist America towards each other. And for us as a people or a sisterhood of women we can no longer afford to be like the powers that be, for their time ended July 7th 2007. I could go further but that is not what this note is about…
This note is about healing the sisterhood of women and what we do for each other without realizing it and how we touch each other. After reading this if you make a pledge to change how you treat other women and heal yourself. Imagine the power we would/could have. Just simply because women are the nurturers of the world by design; this is our role chosen for us or not… We are Mothers; Grandmothers; Aunts; Wives; Sisters; Girlfriends, Lovers; and Friends; we influence every aspect of life. That is why men and powers that be fight to control your mind and thoughts and would rather we all hate each other than to heal and learn from each other…
But in a loud voice I declare I am mad as hell and I am not going to take it anymore or be against other women ever again. From my own insecurities; hangs up; envy; or jealousies and/or significant other that has lied to keep from getting in trouble. (SMDH!)
Sisters, I just want you to think today, how many lives your life force touched this week alone. How many things do you do daily that touches others? Crazy if you really stop for a second and think about how many people you speak to in one day. Now think how many women you are evil to; with the gossip and put downs for the next woman, because of your own insecurity; jealousy; petty & catty ways. If just women come together what type of world would we have? Now look at the powers that be; why do they spend their time trying to keep women under their thumb. Sisters I know you know what I am talking about. Is there a target on our backs?
It is said he who controls food and water controls the world. I say phuck that “he who controls the mothership controls the world…” and I know some think the mothership is a real spaceship … but the mothership is the womb. And the womb is life and therefore the womb must be maintained… So womanhood must be maintained; for it is us as women that must take back our families and our children and men.
Ladies behavior breeds behavior, you that are bitter, I need you to heal yourself right now. And help each other to heal, even be willing to check each other when we are wrong with love. And get rid of this attitude that the world owes you anything at all. Cupcake’s you are just one of many. Alone we have a little power but together we are mighty and we control a lot more than you think we do.
I need us all to stop right now being bitter against ourselves and other women and men. And fight for our birthright. Women you are life! get up, clean up, and be the queen you were meant to be so we can snatch back what was stolen. People have often said civil rights is dead the new rebel yell is human rights…
I say I am woman; I succeed so my sisters will be successful; by them succeeding our children grow and develop in to better beings. Ladies as long as you have the v-power you will always control men. Sorry Fellas it is true, I know you would like to and need to believe it is the dollars in ya pocket that have women in check not true. Nor is it the way you sling wood. Just like the lie you would have us believe, if you got head more you would not cheat. LMAO! Cute but still a lie; what keeps women down is fear of the unknown and never learning she is worth more…
So baby boy your days are numbered. Men either get yawl schitt together or be taken to the curb with the trash that stops women from moving forward. (v-power = the next time you are playing bedroom games look at your legs in the air; what letter do they make…) That is an act of the mothership. (Giggles) The stuff I could teach yawl about our bodies would blow your mind about how perfectly made we are…. But I will save that for another topic but Ladies. We are all that. Pssst Ladies! Start having more sex where you can see your mates eyes and he see’s yours. (Giggles I guess you will have to read the book)
Who maintains the mothership? Who protects the womb? And I am sad to report we as Ladies have not done that. And I am sad to report, the men we gave birth to have run amuck and now run around thinking they can live and maintained life without us. There is a movement that has done all it can to deceived black men and women from being untied in the call to arms to continue life. Look at movies and music written about us and performed by us… look at what the church and temples and synagogues teach you about men. There are women right now that have said the only man I need is Jesus and my kids. Well not unless women plan on self mating you cannot make it without men. Remember if they are no men, then you or your kids would not exist that statement is deeper than first glance.
The reason why they teach you do not need a man has nothing to do with God it has to do with the fact that white women are barren now and not creating life like they were just 30 years ago. White men also are sterile. And abortions have caused more problems than they have solved in the population of America and her economics. It is almost as if nature is correcting a mistake and if a whole family bloodline can dry up imagine if a whole race of people did not get there schitt together; and nature herself had to correct the plight against life. (You do not have to believe me and you can even thing it was a racist statement. But the information is out there.) It is what it is. (I could teach you more on this subject, but if you have not bothered to heal, how can knowing more info help you) When you refuse now to do anything about your own problems. For real I do not want nature to regret that it create us. And there is time for us to improve our situations as members of the tree of life.
I apologize that the father of your kids dogged you out, but Ladies how long will you wallow in a self infected cocoons of doubt and fear because an unwise man got with an unwise woman. I know you hurt and your pain. But there is no need to be mourning the loss of a man for longer than 2yrs you need to be slapped upside your head for a wakeup call…
Slapppppppppppppppppppppppppppppppppp! Wake UP!
Let me share a cruel reality with you… the man/woman you are withering away for has moved on they are not losing their sleep over you, in spite of all the time you took him before the white courts, because you wanted revenge. Yes some no good dead beat man hurt you. So you put that man down in front of your kids; you beat your kids for acting like him; You let men run up inside you like you were meant to be a cum bucket. And refuse to heal so now you have more than one child because you never learned the lesson you are worth more than what a man thinks of you.
You never learned that the only opinion that should matter is what you think of yourself. And if you act like you ain’t schitt Ladies; do not be mad when your behavior leads others to treat you like you have no value. Get Up Ladies you are not alone…. Get Up Ladies…. I value you and so do so many others, that had to learn what you must now learn… Ladies stop harassing the woman that love’s your ex and your kids. A child can never have too many people love them. Grow the hell up!
We know he ain’t schitt to you, we get it, but ummm mommy why are you acting like a jack behind and allowing yourself to be destroyed by a man that was unworthy of you to begin with. I realize you have a million reasons to continue the cycle of self abuse. But why continue to do something that keeps you in a dark place. When if you are honest a man/woman can only do to you what you allow them to do. So if we do not walk away from the madness when we first noticed he/she was not a stand up person. Then we have to take responsibility for our action in the crimes against us. Then heal… If we are lied to or harm, we have to be willing to fight on our behalf and heal and move on. Not spend the rest of your life being bitter and giving the Brotha who is trying to show you love; your ass to kiss… Ladies one woman’s trash might be another woman’s treasure and this goes for men to…
I heard you heffas, say yeah right! … but peep this. If you are capable of change, a man also is capable of change. That does not mean you are a doormat because you choose to love another man it means. Heal and give yourself a little time to know who you are and what you really want. And then move on and be willing to give the benefit of doubt because; you want that for yourself. If you want Love; Trust; and Respect Ladies you have to give that and you have to give it first… Also Ladies please stop going to man to man, giving all your essences away to the first joker that comes along with all his teeth and his own apartment and a car. Men have baggage also.
I do not know how to say in a nice way what is the true… it is what it is… and although it is the truth and it is ugly; you can still heal and renew your Body, Mind, And Soul. Only we as women have the individual power to heal; but thank goodness we do not have to suffer or heal alone. I have my hand out and so do others. Sister reach up; we will reach back…
Ladies get up off the floor and your knees and stop harassing God for schitt you do not need. Where is your pride? Why are you begging GOD for a man or husband when you have yet to heal your past or your kids with the pain you have caused by not healing? Get Up Ladies. I am not going to act like healing or taking the higher road is easy. I am saying it can be done.
Our kids need a mother and a father. You did not create that child alone; and if money is the only thing that stops you from allowing the father to be a part of your children’s lives. Maybe he can babysit or come up with something else because your kids need him also. I know; I do not have all of the answers. But I know there is a solution. And if a man is not beating and raping your kids there is no excuse for a woman to stop a father who wants to be a father to his child…
Questions Ladies if you and the man were still together and he lost his job or had no money for a few weeks or even months; are you trying to tell me you put him out and forbid him to see your children. Come on Yo! That is not right… Ladies the same tacky stuff I watch you do; I watch men do that have full custody of their children and yawl is wrong as hell for it. And Yawl please stop using your kids as pawns and ATM machines…
Again our children need a mother and a father. You do not believing me take a look at these little boys trying to be you. (yeah I said it; your twinkle toes son is trying to be you.) look at the damage your damage is doing to our babies. If you destroy a child’s worth and make the father and all men be the villain; but you were blessed with a man child. Who should your man child become a female or a man. If you say men ain’t schitt who do you think your man child will run to when it is time to choose a mate, it will not be women that look like his mother.
There our facts all around us, that we ignore. Ladies our bitterness towards black men is destroying our unity and your young man child, please stop it. Please!!! Ever man child I have met in the past 15years is so busy being his mother that he forgot what it is like to be a little boy. And has no idea what a man is. He thinks these bullschitt rappers singing about money; cars; and hoes is a man. And because this man child learned early that his mother is ruthless when not pleased. He learned or believes she threw daddy away and I do not want to be eliminated. You can say and pretend children do not watch us; but they do and they are in awe of all we do. And children might not understand why mom and dad split up but they do understand he is gone and you still nagging and making him pay for his dad’s mistake… Shame on any man/woman that does this to our children. So instead of raising man you raise a man that is overly feminine man child that has a lot of bytch ass ways in him. Because you said men ain’t schitt; that negative dysfunctional stuff you say and do has caused boys to think it is okay to be str8 up women.
Parents, I do not care you grew up broke or poor; stop spoiling your children to the point they are ungrateful and want all they see and are lazy and stupid. Because you refuse to set standards and goals for them. A child any age can earn what they want. Sit down pay bills with your kids, so they can see why mom/dad do not have a lot of money give them real values. And please stop cussing out your kids and calling them this filthy ass names. Stop being afraid of your children. Stop trying be there friends and stop buying their love. You are a parent act like it. You created that little selfish monster and then you turn him or her on the world… so not cool. Parents I need yawl to grow the hell up!
There is no excuse for our people to be dying and confused by our own hands. I regret you do not want to take responsibility for the actions of other men/women that have not learned how to heal… I would suggest you move your tail to Guam but there is a sisterhood of women in Guam to. So you have to grow up and get over that is not fair bullschitt, you says while making the rest of the world miserable.
Women were never meant to raise children alone. That does not mean it cannot be done, it means the mothers have to work hard to find good role models for her man child and for her woman child. So the community as a whole is needed to help with that child… the whole village. And people once a child is here do not blame your teen or your child for making the baby. It is wrong and it is so hurtful to continue to sit in judgment of someone where they feel shame ever time they speak with you. The mistake was made; your grandchild is here and they are not a mistake. Now love them and guide them and take your teen to parenting classes as a matter fact you learn with them… I took some parenting classes they were fun and I learned a lot and I stop screaming at the top of my lungs. And I now use my parenting classes skills on adults and it works too. Lmao!
I am not ashamed of any of my people once they come to the planet. why act like that? What is your disappointment going to do for the community or that child? what is being bitter about someone else’s mistake going to do for us as a people? Show love and kindness because you want it for yourself. Heavy Sigh!
Men while you laugh at a woman’s reality and her foolishnesses. What kind of man leaves his seeds behind;
- What have you taught your daughters? they really do need you.
- Look at that little boy running around in girls pants; showing off his dayum underwear so men and chicken hawks go after your son.
- Look at your little gurl being tossed up by some old goat that does not give a dayum about her; because she needs a father figure. Now she is with child.
- That lady you admiring now on the stripper pole is up there because she never learned self worth from her father. You want a stripper to call you daddy; but not your child.
- You getting ready for the weekend, huh! that girl you tricking with to get brain. Will be your child in a few years, being lied to in the same manner you lied to her mother. Them same women you put down for being a hoe is your child’s future.
- How come your own children can’t depend on you? Why is it only okay to be a Father on the weekend?
- And men if another man steps up to the plate and loves and supports the kids you threw away; you better support him and give your kids a gift that you were not willing to give.
Get up Men and get your schitt together, so you kids can see it is never too late to heal and for a man to get himself together… Men I Need for You To Get Up!
Why does our black society allows rappers, r&b singers and actors to be role models. For our children. These people are telling your little girls to be independent and not depend on a man. Not because she has value but because she is not worth spending money on. But in the same breath; they tell her she should bend over and gets on her knees because man or boy says so… WTF! If you listen and watch that crap in front of your child and do not explain life. this is how our children will act. Messages like that or “let me use your body as my cum bucket while I give you backshots; as a matter fact you need to pay me for my time; girl cuz you my bitch or hoe. And people just think it is cool. Men and Women I need you to help restore love and respect for families and each other. Even if you do not have or want a family respect and love is needed for all and from us all.
Women, I hurt with you but there is no excuse for you giving up on your life; kids; family; men; women; and your birthright. Get up Ladies I say get up! Pity party time is over, forgive and move on so you can be free to love you and others…
Ladies we are life, we are the mothership. I not talking about making babies as much as I am talking about what we control Ladies; we control it all with how we treat each other. We see other Ladies being harmed and make comments like “that the bitch deserved it.” We believe there is a man shortage because black men have been locked up and blah; Blah; Blah, chasing behind what white people that stole your ancestors from another land have to say. why? Have you seen how their kids act? I refuse to fight over some other woman’s extra sloppy seconds. And I am not sharing a man. There needs to be more of us that stand up for each other.
I do not care the reasons for why you were hurt, it is enough for me that someone caused injury to your essences. If it stops you from moving forward; I need for you to heal; so you will know what I know. You are worth fighting for; you are worthy of love and respect. and the people who try to keep you from growing into a whole and complete person are wrong. I am sad to report, sometimes family members are the most toxic people in our lives. But in spite of all the abuse and negative words and self destruction that has cause problems in our lives; if I can heal it, then we all can. I am not better than you; I just reached out when I saw people wanting to help me fight for my life. The time is now…
Ladies we let ‘the power that be’ determine for us, what should be said and taught to our children and men… Why is that? We are in a country others consider to be all that. but in other cultures and societies women with less than us, have more power and influence over their village than we do here in America. And yet they maintain the sisterhood. Why is that? And there are parts of the world that it is okay to beat and rape or do harm a women. Why is that? Ladies who are we? Have we forgotten our roles in life, and I see it daily when one woman is disrespectful to another sister of the womb. We have gotten desperate over crumbs that are thrown to us. why?
The womb is life therefore it must be maintained and how can it be maintained if we as women spend more time than the ones against us as a people; destroying all we touch with selfishness, lies, bitterness and self-serving behavior. And that back stabbing and cheating with simple minded men and tricking for a few dollars schitt ain’t cute either. I wonder can anyone at all hear me.
Ladies our lives touch each other how you & I live matters. Where is our love and unity for each other? Where is our self love and knowledge of self at?
The New Ending For New Beginning…
I Greet Us All In Love And Respect!
Ase “So Shall It Be” Ase
~ Floetic XpressionZ~
On January 5, 2011 @ 2:18P.M.
Written By Samantha MahMi a.k.a. Floetic XpressionZ
As Inspired By Tamekia Hayes Singleton after here post called “Restoring Womanhood”
© 2011 Floetic XpressionZ Ensyght L.L.C. (All Rights Reserved.)
[Respect to Safia Rashid and the other sisters that participated in Tamekia’s article with comments. Thank you all for speaking to my heart and sharing your life force with me]
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I left number for you to call if you are in crisis or in need of help; even if it was something that happen as a child there are so many wonderful programs that can help you. I used them all personally. They also have therapist that will help with women issues and can help with depression at most mental health centers. And a lot of services are free or on a sliding scale fee. If you contact your local Family Centers or 211 info lines.
The help is there just waiting for you to take it. It does not matter how old you are or how much money you have. It does not matter if it happen yesterday or 20 years ago. You are worth healing. I learned it was much better to heal with guidance and support than to do it all alone.
May my truth set us all free…
"Flower of Life"
"My Life must touch another life"
what we do and say has an cause and affect in each of our lives, so if you do not care about you why not? look at all the circles your circle touches
aka look how your soul touches all the souls around it
This is life at it finest, this is why i work hard to be better than i was the day before ...
Because i am my brothers and sisters keeper!
